Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Heartaches of Motherhood

Have you ever had one of those days when it hurts to be a mom and you would rather be your child because they are going through something real hard?
Today was one of those days when I wish I could have taken all of my daughter's hurt away.
Karrilyn had an awful day at work. She teaches at a day care and of course they are not paid hardly anything, not given money for supplies and expect them to teach the kids and keep them under control.
Today she was having a real hard time because she teaches the Kindergarten children at the day care while they are out of school and she can't get them to listen to her. The hard thing about it is that she can't discipline them at ALL. She can't even put them in time out or anything. She is expected to keep them in control but very limited. She has been struggling with getting them to listen for quite a while and today she had ENOUGH.
I was in town with a friend and she called just sobbing. I couldn't even understand what she was saying. It was awful. I decided that I better leave what I was doing and go and rescue her.
We sat in the car and talked and talked. She was so upset. Her boss kept saying "Why can't you control them" "How hard is it" "I don't know what to do with you".

Days like this are so hard, all you want to do is just take all of the problems away. I went over a little later and read some stories and played with the kids to help to alleviate some of her stress and it seemed like she was doing a little better.
Motherhood is hard.


Rae said...

My goodness!! That is a whole lot to expect of her. That sounds really rough and stressful. I'm glad she has you to ease the burden!

susette said...

What a great example for you to just help her through this and have you to listen to her and be able to comfort her. Many bonding times with my own daughter have just been through crying and talking and laughing together. I will always cherish those special times. Especially as she will be heading off to live in Boston with her new husband in less than 2 weeks.

Anonymous said...

My heart goes out to her. It sounds like she is in unrealistic situation. If she can't discipline, then the kids are going to learn that and take advantage. I have never heard of that, especially not being allowed to give a time out? I bet her boss has never come in and shown her how its done, either, eh? Nobody knows how difficult it is to control a bunch of kids until they have had to do it. I hope things get better for her soon. :-)